A Few Thoughts on Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In”

The cover of Sheryl Sanberg's thought-provoking,
blockbuster book Lean In.

I love great books, especially the ones that challenge conventional thinking, propose practical solutions, and offer an expansive vision for the future. Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg's book, Lean In, achieves this in spectacular fashion.

Remember her awesome, crowd-pleasing TED Talk in 2010? With the help of stats and studies, she builds on that. You'll be impressed by her humor and honesty, and wowed by her great storytelling. This woman knows how to tell a story that strengthens the connectivity with the reader. Take how she ends Chapter Three:

Less than six months after I started Facebook, Mark (Zuckerberg) and I sat down for my first formal review. One of the things he told me was that my desire to be liked by everyone would hold me back. He said that when you want to change things, you can't please everyone. If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress. Mark was right.

This passage is notable because she is giving you a glimpse into what her and so many others (myself included) have struggled with, and – though probably not deliberately – sharing just how Mark Zuckerberg makes business decisions. Good stuff. And just one of many things that will keep you engaged.

It would be a mistake to write off Lean In as simply a book for women. It is not. And its not just for social media watchers or the professional crowd. If you value personal growth and great relationships, this book is for you. Buy it. Read it. Share it.

Guest Post: 5 Tips to Connect in an Instant on Social Media by Ricki Lake

Social media has changed the world forever. In just 140 characters or an update to your Facebook status, you have the potential to connect with a complete stranger in the same town or across the globe. In an instant, Friendships are being formed. Business is taking place. People are connecting. And the world will never be the same.   But it isn’t that easy…    


Many people are standing on the sidelines of social media, unsure of how to jump into the conversation and contribute their thoughts. There is uncertainty about how one can form bonds with people they have never met “face to face.” Are you one of many asking the question, “how?” That is why we are here and you can know one thing for sure… 


You are in the right place! We have teamed up with Ricki Lake, one of the most engaged celebrities on social media, to share 5 tips for connecting with people in an instant on social media.

Watch this video to hear Ricki Lake’s #1 Tip for Connecting on Social Media
2. Be Respectful.

Leave judgment at the door and respect that other people on social media have beliefs and opinions that are their own. This is what makes them unique! Just as in offline relationships, if you want to make friends, you have to be one first. If you want people to respect you, start by being respectful of them.  


3. Be Inspiring. People like social media for many reasons. Many will share that they feel uplifted and empowered to live their best life by connecting with inspiring and positive people. If you want to make a lot of friends on social media, be inspiring. Be encouraging. Be a friend.

4. Be Generous. The more you offer to help others in life, the more “likeable” you will be. When on social media you can help others by supporting their work. Take the time to mention people, and give them positive feedback. When you re-tweet or share the content of others they feel good and are more likely to appreciate and connect with you. Remember, “it’s not about me, it’s about we”.  


5. Find a Fun Community! Following a hashtag community on Twitter or joining a group or community on Facebook is a great way to connect with people who are like you and who are usually looking for the same type of connection you are looking for. Twitter and Facebook are the largest gathering of individuals on the planet. Communities are simply small groups within. Think of communities on social media as you would small break-out sessions at a very, very large conference. The name on the door is the community. Pick the door that tells you that you share common interests with those on the other side. Then, open the door, step inside and say hello via a tweet or a post on the Facebook wall. You will be surprised that many are waiting for… you!    


If you are looking for a community that is based on friendship and connection, please join Ricki Lake and the Friends of Ricki for a very special announcement and a first hand look at social media connection on Ustream at http://ustream.tv/rickilake and using Twitter hashtag #FriendsofRicki at 5pm PST this Wednesday, February 1. We look forward to seeing you and connecting with you there!   Do you have any ideas or questions about making connections on social media? Please leave your thoughts in the comments and let’s discuss.

Passionistas

This is the latest post in our series, TwitterPowerhouses, which focuses on the contributions of people who’ve helped to expand, influence, and redefine how we view social networking. I co-wrote it with Ann Tran and Elianne Ramos


This is cross-posted in the Huffington Post Women Section.


We are all impressed by those who create value in the lives of others, work tirelessly to accomplish their dreams and embody the purpose-driven life they often reference in their conversation. Passion is their fuel. It adds depth and energy to their vision, and provides a spark to create something timeless and substantive. As Arianna Huffington so brilliantly states, “passion is the key to success.” Writer Gretchen Rubin shares a similar thought:

A passion gives you a reason to keep learning and to work toward mastery. It can often give you a reason to travel, and therefore to have the new experiences so key to happiness. It gives you something in common with other people, and so fosters social bonds. It gives you purpose. It often has a satisfying physical aspect — rock-climbing, fly-fishing, knitting. It gives meaningful structure to your time. It makes the world a richer place.

In the Nineteenth Century, inventor Ada Augusta Lovelace provided concepts and technical framework for what is recognized as an early computer. Over 100 years later, in the latter part of the Twentieth Century, leaders Patsy Takemoto Mink, Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, and Shirley Chisholm would all make history of their own. Their accomplishments, and those of many, many others, are rightly celebrated for the lasting impact they have had on our lives. Indeed, centuries and decades come and go, but the passion to make it happen remains the same.


If it’s true that passion is defined as an intense, driving, or excitable feeling or conviction, then these women profiled in this post are its prime example. The fact that each one of them is passionate about different things is not coincidental: they represent the diversity of voices in our world who have found a channel for their ideas and use them to better not just their own life, but the lives of those around them. What makes their work unique is its focus, determination, and intensity. What drives it, as evident by their actions, is passion.

Porter Gale 
Porter Gale, former VP at Virgin America, is a bonafide global citizen. A popular and respected
blogger for Huffington Post and AdAge, she’s very passionate about new media and how we can
use it to create positive change and develop connections. She’s launching a highly-anticipated
business venture in 2012. She told us: “Every day is a gift. My happiness level is
increasing with age.”

The Single Woman
TheSinglewoman, brimming with quotes and affirmations to help you ‘Seize the Day’! When
Oprah Winfrey expressed gratitude about it on her Twitter feed, there was no doubt that it had
struck a chord with a global audience. It’s a phenomenon. The posts are not only passionate,
but elegant.

Olivia Zaleski
A world-renowned authority on environmental issues, Olivia Zaleski is passionate about green technology. She promotes green alternatives in her speeches and public appearances. The first editor of the
Huffington Post Green Section and a former reporter with CNN, Zaleski is now a new media correspondent with The Daily, the first national daily news publication created for the iPad.

Lily Jang
The beautiful world of Lily Jang: she speaks three languages and is one of the most celebrated journalists in social media because of the way she stays connected to her fans. Her great profiles and reports reverberate far beyond her viewership.

Isa Zapata
Isa Zapata brings a whimsical and vibrant element to her art, combining her
Latin roots with eclectic sensibility. Using social media for social good, Isa Zapata is using Twitter, Facebook and her blog to spread the word about her nonprofit endeavors. Her statement to us: “I want to make people happy with my art, and remind everyone that life is simple and beautiful.”

Britt Michaelian
Britt Michaelian is known as the Smart Start Up Coach for Lifestyle
Entrepreneurs at Work Smart Lifestyle, where she helps aspiring entrepreneurs design businesses
that allow them to pursue their dream lifestyle. Britt is also Co-Founder of Social Media Girlfriends,
a fast-growing social media community for women to connect, support and encourage each other to be the best they can be.

Carla Young
Founder & Publisher of  Momeo Magazine and Entrepreneurial Moms, Carla Young is an inspiration many. With a dedicated staff and loyal following, she is able to focus singularly on her passion for helping ‘mom bloggers’ and momprepreneurs.

Natalie McNeal
A specialist on career development and a savings expert for geezeo.com, Natalie P. McNeal is the author The Frugalista Files: How One Woman Got Out of Debt Without Giving Up the Fabulous Life.
In fact, the word “Frugalista”, which she owns a trademark for, was a ‘Word of the Year’ finalist by
Oxford University Press.

Green Girls
GreenGirls, the creation of the eco-minded Apple Levy, is a great resource of articles, blogs,
videos and other content highlighting a green lifestyle. Her work with eco-conscious
celebrities is well-known

Sarah Austin
A smart popular culture observer with keen eye for what’s hot, and a knack for epic videography.
This is how many describe Sarah Austin. And they’re correct. She’s an angel investor in a
tech start-up, and her Pop17 site, which deserves its own prime time show,
profiles great names in the world of social media.

Click here to see the entire list of 41 women in this Passionistas post.
Authors Note: In case you missed it, here’s Part 21 of the series: 39 Inspiring Men and Their Passion for Charity.